What to say and Not to say to a Grieving Mother or Parent

The Noneillah Talk Show with Althea Haynes,, discussing "What to Say or Not to Say to a Bereaved Parent/Grieving Mother. How are you doing? How are you doing is the worst question to ask a bereaved parent who lost their child/children? This question put the bereaved parent in an awkward position. Yes, we all know that is a general greeting question, but if you were around that person who lost their child, you should know how they are doing. You know that bereaved parent is stricken with grief. A None bereaved parent sees that it is an okay question to ask and do not understand why the bereaved parent gets upset. It is very ignoring, self-center, and stubborn to ask that bereaved parent that question every time you speak with them. Keep in mind the bereaved parent is not being selfish because they do not like when a person asks that question; they are hurting bad. So please do not say or ask a question that might make the bereaved person have a mental and emotional setback. Respect the grieving parent wishes by not asking a question that set them off to a suicidal state or a nervous breakdown. The none bereaved a person think, if they keep asking the bereaved parent how are they doing, they will finally give in to that none bereaved parent world and say I am okay. A None grieved parent should not try to conform the bereaved parent into he/she feels or should feel. You are still grieving. I think that statement is so cold heartening, mindless, unemotional unattached and foolish. There is no time limited that a parent should stop grieving. You cannot put a price or time limitation on love for a lost child. Therefore, if you never lost a child, please do not say anything at all. My mother lost her child, and it is not going to be comfortable but better. This statement is stupid for a person to say to a bereaved parent. We must keep in mind everyone who lost their child deal with the situation in a different way. Some people relationship with their child can be stronger and closer than another parent who lost their child. The years a parent invested in the child hurts deeper because of all the milestone that was planned in his or her life. She/he is in a better place, and they or not suffering anymore. That statement can be okay when the person was suffering from a deadly illness that causes them to suffer. However, that statement does not apply when a person has been tragically killed. We, as a human being, say things that are commonly used and apply it to all death. I will pray for you. Some bereaved parent does not want to hear you will pray for them because they wonder to know where was your pray when their child was taken in a horrific way or where was God. It is easy for none grieved parents to offer their pray because they are not walking the same shoes as the grieved parent. If you want to pray for that person, keep it to yourself and just do it. No need to make an announcement. What are you trying to gain by telling the grieving person you are going to pray for them? The only time you should say to that person you are going to pray for them if they ask you. You are just sitting and letting the world pass you by, or you are letting yourself go to waste.